When we are short of time it means we cannot get our allotted tasks done in the time available. Therefore time management is about task management.
Learning to manage your ‘to do’ list is the key.
Everyone only has 24 hours in the day, so manage the amount of work you have to get through, allow yourself reasonable timescales to acheive your objectives, and then allow some slack for overruns.
Prioritising your tasks makes the time much more manageable.
When you meet someone new, there is no past and the future has not yet happened, so make the present a good place.
There is a language style that goes with time, depending on your perspective of time and whether you are past reflective, present orientated, or future thinking.
Bear this in mind when you speak to other people who will not have the same time perspective.
Time is the greatest gift you have and a natural resource. Stay in the present, don’t dwell on the past or overplan the future. The present is here and now. The greatest gift you can give other people is your time and enjoying the present with them.
I hope you read Listening 1 which are bad examples of listening
Here are some good examples of listening:
- Actually hearing what is being said.
- Understanding why they are saying it.
- Wanting to help the person solve the dilemma (see my ‘Problems’ thought).
- Accepting that the other person has strong feelings about their point of view.
- Letting the other person finish what they are saying.
- Acknowledging that there may be middle ground between to polar opposites.
Basically, understand what the other person is saying. Listen not only with your ears but examine the content/context and body language of what is being communicated.
You can travel far by being still
management qualities-psychologists views
high tolerance of frustration
continually self question
understand rules of engagement in each circumstance
gracious in victory and defeat
after Argyris -1953
Do you trust your own instinct?
Have you ever tried to sell something to someone and thought that although they said the right things, this sale will backfire?
Have you ever met someone who seems OK but something is nagging you about their behaviour?
Have you ever gone along to a meeting and it has not turned out as you expected?
Don’t worry, these are all examples of you trying to make sense of the world.
Your instinct is a very powerful tool. It is a whole host of memories and analyses dragged up from the depths of your brain and based on the amount of time you have spent on this planet.
You may not be able to instantly recognise the problem, but your feeling of discomfort is driven by your subconscious mind telling you this is not right.
Learn to trust your instincts and don’t be persuaded otherwise. You may of course not be ‘right’, but most of the time you will be, as the definition of ‘right’ is purely your personal definition and hence driven by your instinct.
I would suggest there are some parts of your instinct that need curbing (that desire to throttle someone who is annoying you), but most of the time your instinct is trying to help you make sense of the world.
Have an attitude that promotes action. Plan, control and continually review your actions. Don’t wait for success, drive towards it. Even a bad plan is better than no plan as it will get you moving towards a better plan. Planned action and preparation is the key to success.
For Chaos read ‘Unplanned Change’. Chaos will appear out of nowhere and without a structure and being able to work in many dimensions to achieve sense out of chaos is essential for sanity.
Complex chaotic situations do not necessarily mean complex solutions. Stick to your simple principles and values, apply them with equal measure and chaos will be managed – at least until the next chaotic situation comes along.
If you cannot predict, prepare..
Once a team finds itself ahead of schedule it will try to get itself even more ahead of schedule- aka momentum
Learn to control your inner thoughts and reflect on why you are anxious.
Anxiety is contagious and therefore be on your guard you do not catch this from other people, or indeed transmit this yourself. An anxious mind cannot make good choices.