We all work in teams of varying shapes and sizes, here are a few lessons to help teams work better:
- Negotiate and agree explict (written if necessary) rules of engagement.
- Continually give feedback.
- Have respect for other points of view and address team issues immediately without procrastination.
- Treat team members as irrelevant.
- Deny the importance of feedback.
- Belittle contributions.
- Break into subcommittees.
- Cross talk.
- Imagine you will all get along.
It is better also if you clearly define the Goals and Objectives of the team so that all members appreciate and understand their respective duties.
Bouncing back from personal criticism or misfortune is easier if you fundamentally believe you are correct. If this is not the case you have made a mistake and should admit it, best of all to yourself, then bounce back in a different direction.
My definition is that this means helping people to realize their full potential by giving them advice from my own experiences.
Successful leaders are motivated by their desire to help and support others.
I hope you read Listening 1 which are bad examples of listening
Here are some good examples of listening:
- Actually hearing what is being said.
- Understanding why they are saying it.
- Wanting to help the person solve the dilemma (see my ‘Problems’ thought).
- Accepting that the other person has strong feelings about their point of view.
- Letting the other person finish what they are saying.
- Acknowledging that there may be middle ground between to polar opposites.
Basically, understand what the other person is saying. Listen not only with your ears but examine the content/context and body language of what is being communicated.
The roots of this word are Greek meant ‘to stand’ and ‘together’.
Do your actions stand together with your words?
The single most pervasive cause of stress is within your control. Your deeds should match your values.
Why would you want to behave any differently from your core beliefs?
It is a matter of gathering all your energy and passion (see Passion) in a unified direction and focussing on to those goals in a consistent manner.
Inconsistency saps energy.
It is the one thing I have struggled with for most of my life. I am an extrovert personality who thinks out loud and I have to impose strict self discipline to see that my energies are properly directed.
Dual Standards exact a cost, consistent behaviour helps people understand you better.
management qualities-psychologists views
high tolerance of frustration
continually self question
understand rules of engagement in each circumstance
gracious in victory and defeat
after Argyris -1953
Keeping personal human contact is the best way to build and maintain relationships. A follow-up email, telephone call, letter is nice but nothing can replace the sensory experience of a face to face meeting. You can get an awful lot more information out of social interaction than you can in a two dimensional piece of print or a telephone call.
If you can’t be motivated to go and see someone then question your motivation.
Forget being an all-rounder, admit some stuff you cannot do and play to your strengths. You will be a better person for it and be thought better of.
The best present you can give is your presence.
Whatever you do make the best of your environment. Go for the best (see Quality) and if you need to change it for the better, don’t hesitate. Be at one with the world and a good environment will make whatever you are doing better and more bearable