You are capable of changing. You change your underwear, hairstyle, partner, job because you want to.
When other people want you to change, review your capabilities to change. If you don’t want to go along with the change then remove yourself from that environment.
If you do accept the change then embrace it.
Resisting change because you don’t accept it is purely selfish and you should spend your time elsewhere and not block other people’s progress or willingness to change.
Resistance to change is a huge drain on your emotional and physical energies. Go somewhere where you are more comfortable and your energy is projected onto positive change rather than obstruction.
Lead by example and by experience.
Don’t ask anyone to do something you do not understand or would not be prepared to do yourself if you had the relevant expertise.
That way you will understand the outcome and more importantly you know whether the task has been performed efficiently or correctly.
Have a go at this, it will teach you to live more frugally, and although it is seen as a physical exercise, which is not a bad thing, it also teaches you ethical and spiritual values.
You will hear the word ‘mindfulness’ in the classes and this will teach you to appreciate the here and now.
How happy are you about the way you introduce yourself to someone you have not met?
Don’t forget first impressions count and influence the way that person deals with you in the future.
First mpression are all about making an impact and having a lasting presence.
Polish up those personal traits, have flair and gravitas in equal measure and an attitude which says you are listening and respecting the other person. Above all smile as you enter the room or answer the telephone or send that email, you will be better remembered for it.
Treat each encounter as if it were the first time and go in with the attitude that you want to leave that person in a happier frame of mind for having met you. You are your own ‘brand’, so manage that instant composite image that will influence your future.
Some people hate to plan for fear of failure.
If you have a plan you know where you are going. A bad plan is better than nothing as it will lead you to a better plan.
If you have a plan, you have a benchmark for your actions. Constant review and feedback will ensure you control events and measure against pre determined factors.
You may even decide to change a good plan into an even better one,
The worst plan is no plan at all, you will just drift.
see them as stepping stones
When we are short of time it means we cannot get our allotted tasks done in the time available. Therefore time management is about task management.
Learning to manage your ‘to do’ list is the key.
Everyone only has 24 hours in the day, so manage the amount of work you have to get through, allow yourself reasonable timescales to acheive your objectives, and then allow some slack for overruns.
Prioritising your tasks makes the time much more manageable.
When you meet someone new, there is no past and the future has not yet happened, so make the present a good place.
There is a language style that goes with time, depending on your perspective of time and whether you are past reflective, present orientated, or future thinking.
Bear this in mind when you speak to other people who will not have the same time perspective.
Time is the greatest gift you have and a natural resource. Stay in the present, don’t dwell on the past or overplan the future. The present is here and now. The greatest gift you can give other people is your time and enjoying the present with them.
If you have been brought up as Christian, you will be familiar with this principle. The usual interpretation of the phrase is to treat each other as you would like to be treated yourself.
However, consider this, the phrase goes beyond this slightly egocentric view. What it is actually saying is that you should treat other people as they would like to be treated; i.e in a way that pleases them. That way:
a) they will understand you better
b) they may even reciprocate this principle and you will understand them better
Don’t forget, not everyone has the same world view as yourself and therefore by seeing the world through other people’s eyes and having a flexible approach in treating people means you can get your message across much easier.
In a business culture there are premiums on innovation and creativity.
Sometimes unusual problems require unusual answers, they are not always solved by pre determined processes.
Principles have the casting vote over rules