Do you trust your own instinct?
Have you ever tried to sell something to someone and thought that although they said the right things, this sale will backfire?
Have you ever met someone who seems OK but something is nagging you about their behaviour?
Have you ever gone along to a meeting and it has not turned out as you expected?
Don’t worry, these are all examples of you trying to make sense of the world.
Your instinct is a very powerful tool. It is a whole host of memories and analyses dragged up from the depths of your brain and based on the amount of time you have spent on this planet.
You may not be able to instantly recognise the problem, but your feeling of discomfort is driven by your subconscious mind telling you this is not right.
Learn to trust your instincts and don’t be persuaded otherwise. You may of course not be ‘right’, but most of the time you will be, as the definition of ‘right’ is purely your personal definition and hence driven by your instinct.
I would suggest there are some parts of your instinct that need curbing (that desire to throttle someone who is annoying you), but most of the time your instinct is trying to help you make sense of the world.
This is purely personal and is down to you. Whatever you have chosen, you have gone through an acceptance or rejection process of looking at other options.
You have made your choice and now you must live with it.
Whatever you choose, give it as much energy, committment, passion and enthusiasm as you can. If you don’t feel that way then you have made the wrong choice.
Don’t spend your life in suspended animation because sooner or later someone will make that choice for you and you won’t like it.
Be prepared to give the credit to someone else. It is often easier to get things done if you do not want to directly receive the credit for the success.
This detaches you from the idea itself and then you can be more receptive to critically evaluate ideas from other people.
Multitasking is now mandatory. Prioritising your tasks will help you remain focussed on what is important.
Constantly consult your priority list and re-prioritise as necessary.
Cross off those items that don’t matter and tend to the most important whether you like them or not.
A lot of this is about time management. We all have the same number of hours in a day. It is a question of what task is most important in the allotted time we have available. Staying in bed is not an option!
Respect every person’s points of view, even if you don’t agree.
From this position you are much more likely to help someone if you respect them.
Arrogance will always undermine your thinking, so having a healthy respect for the other person’s point of view will ensure a balanced approach to decision making.
Respect underpins everything.
It is a lot easier to influence someone who respects you, and it is difficult to persuade others to do things if they don’t.
Don’t let the respect others have of you diminish, always behave according to your values and ethics.
If you come across this here are a few tips:
Firstly, try and plan for these. Put some scenarios in when you pretend that a crisis has happened. Ffamiliarity will mean that the crisis is not so critical.
Form a team of people who can help you manage the crisis and have better experience.
Adopt a crisis mentality. Sometimes democratic processes may not work. Adopting a strong leadership approach works best. Be careful about the choice of leader.
Protect and preserve your core values, these will see you through the crisis.
Be prepared to change. The reason you are in a crisis is that you did not see it coming and you therefore did not change in time.
Dont let the crisis dominate your life. Try to continue as normal as possible in other non-critical areas. Keep a sense of perspective.
Finally, the crisis will pass. Analyse the results and learn from your mistakes.
Remove complacency from your life.
After discussions or meetings demonstrate Urgency, say to everyone as a result of this meeting my behavior will change in the next week and I will achieve this result. What are you going to do to help me and yourself?
Forget being an all-rounder, admit some stuff you cannot do and play to your strengths. You will be a better person for it and be thought better of.
Never stop training. Exposing yourself to new ideas and thinking will enliven you and create energy which will rub off onto other people.
Never assume you know it all and that your thirst for knowledge has become satisfied.
Expose yourself to formal teaching and obtain different perspectives on life and dilemmas (see problems).
By keeping up to date with the latest trends and thoughts you will be able to survive in the modern world. Honing your skill base will mean you can keep that sharp competitive edge.
Not willing to train is arrogance. It is an assumption that you know everything and that you are always at the top of your game, which, of course, nobody ever is. Or will be.
Keeping personal human contact is the best way to build and maintain relationships. A follow-up email, telephone call, letter is nice but nothing can replace the sensory experience of a face to face meeting. You can get an awful lot more information out of social interaction than you can in a two dimensional piece of print or a telephone call.
If you can’t be motivated to go and see someone then question your motivation.