Thoughts for the Day

Personal

Keeping personal human contact is the best way to build and maintain relationships. A follow-up email, telephone call, letter is nice but nothing can replace the sensory experience of a face to face meeting. You can get an awful lot more information out of social interaction than you can in a two dimensional piece of print or a telephone call.

If you can’t be motivated to go and see someone then question your motivation.

Moving on

Know when to finish and take a bow. Leave a situation on your terms and make sure your exit is viewed as the end of an era, not the end of an error. Don’t overstay your welcome or repeat yourself.

Grief

Five stages of Grief

Although originally written by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross to describe bereavement, this cycle is applicable to emotional reactions in change or trauma situations

  1. Denial – The refusal of the facts or the reality of the situation
  2. Anger – Either with yourself or with others close to you
  3. Bargaining – Trying to seek a compromise
  4. Depression – Sadness, fear and uncertainty as change is accepted
  5. Acceptance – Emotional detachment and objectivity comes in to being

Do unto others etc.

If you have been brought up as Christian, you will be familiar with this principle. The usual interpretation of the phrase is to treat each other as you would like to be treated yourself.

However, consider this, the phrase goes beyond this slightly egocentric view. What it is actually saying is that you should treat other people as they would like to be treated; i.e in a way that pleases them. That way:
a) they will understand you better
b) they may even reciprocate this principle and you will understand them better

Don’t forget, not everyone has the same world view as yourself and therefore by seeing the world through other people’s eyes and having a flexible approach in treating people means you can get your message across much easier.

Reciprocity

Doing something for others first is more likely to generate returns, but don’t expect instantaneous feedback. Rewards have a distinct habit of being delayed and the more you expect them, the more disappointed you will become if they don’t appear as you expected.

Equally when presenting a new idea, explain what is in it for other people, not just yourself.

Pace

To ensure the rest of the world remains with you, stop doing things at the same pace you are starting others. Too many activities at once will confuse people and you will become frustrated. Remember the convoy analogy: you can only go as fast as the slowest (but vital) member of the team.

Guidance

Show people where you want to go and let them decide how to get there. Don’t over guide and dictate, allow people the freedom to express themselves in ways you cannot imagine and be receptive to different ways of acheiving the same ends

Ageing

It happens to us all. As you get older physical decline is inevitable and managing your heath is important. What is even more important is that you manage your mental health. Stay sharp and focused, constantly educate your mind in new ways. Learn skills, being mentally receptive to change and new experiences reduces anxiety and insecurity.

Passion

Get passionate, do everything to the max, otherwise you will kick yourself if you fail because you didn’t give it 100%.

Live each day as your last because one day it will be.

Work beyond the call of duty, get other people excited about your projects and set goals with your heart, not just your intellect.

Reputation

No reputation is built on the basis of a single experience or the result of a solitary factor.

Reputation is a culmination of all the things you are good at done consistently well over an extended period of time. Once you have established what this is and what these things are then protect them and cherish them as valuable assets.