Get yourself a mentor – someone who can offer you wise advice when decision making does not become easy.
The less formal the arrangement the better. What matters is that each side gets something out of it and problems become dilemmas that get discussed and resolved in consultation with someone who wishes you no harm.
Use and learn from competition – some of the best brains work for other people. Listen and learn what and why they do.
If you want to remain sharp you need to be in the company of smart individuals who will push you.
Love what you are doing and apply your talents to love the process of doing. The more you enjoy the process, the easier the goals become. If you don’t enjoy the process and the Now, make a change and enjoy something else.
We all work in teams of varying shapes and sizes, here are a few lessons to help teams work better:
- Negotiate and agree explict (written if necessary) rules of engagement.
- Continually give feedback.
- Have respect for other points of view and address team issues immediately without procrastination.
- Treat team members as irrelevant.
- Deny the importance of feedback.
- Belittle contributions.
- Break into subcommittees.
- Cross talk.
- Imagine you will all get along.
It is better also if you clearly define the Goals and Objectives of the team so that all members appreciate and understand their respective duties.
A surfeit of greed will lead to excessive risk taking with the inevitable correction being proportionately painful. The higher you go without weighing up how greedy you have become will mean the inevitable drop will be disastrous because you haven’t risk managed your parachute.
Respect every person’s points of view, even if you don’t agree.
From this position you are much more likely to help someone if you respect them.
Arrogance will always undermine your thinking, so having a healthy respect for the other person’s point of view will ensure a balanced approach to decision making.
Respect underpins everything.
It is a lot easier to influence someone who respects you, and it is difficult to persuade others to do things if they don’t.
Don’t let the respect others have of you diminish, always behave according to your values and ethics.
We all come across this from time to time. Sometimes it is intentional, sometimes we are forced into it. We all have our preferred ways of dealing with it.
The best analysis I have found is the Thomas Kilman analysis. They establish 5 methods of dealing with Conflict as follows competing, getting what you want at all costs.
Collaborating, understanding both sides and reaching a mutually beneficial conclusion.
Compromising, applying a quick fix, but maybe leaving both sides in a lest preferred position.
Avoidance, working round the issue.
Accommodating, giving in for a quiet life.
One, or a mixture of the above, will work dependant on circumstances. Be prepared for conflict and be prepared to adopt or adapt accordingly.
Pass on whatever you have learnt to others, at least that will stop them making the same mistake!
The best people I know realise they cannot operate by simply issuing instructions and that no one can possibly know everything that is needed to be known to get the job done.
Highly effective people are those who are prepared to teach.
You may feel that reliance on others whom you have taught actually diminishes your stature. The reverse is more true.
Knowing when to get advice is important: to visit a psychiatrist you have to be mad. What is important is not that we fail to seek advice when needed but we know why we are asking for help and what we require to achieve the end result.
Know when to finish and take a bow. Leave a situation on your terms and make sure your exit is viewed as the end of an era, not the end of an error. Don’t overstay your welcome or repeat yourself.